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Virginity has become an obsolete concept in modern Western society, allowing young women to experiment with their sexuality while their male counterparts are doing the same. This actually results in a healthier more well-adjusted sexual identity later in life. However, virginity has not totally left the modern scene. Many cultures are still upholding the value of virginity or pre-marital chastity, mainly on the basis of predominant religious concepts.

The most popular advocate of virginity is the Catholic Church. Its most obvious validation for this stand is the teaching that all young girls are the Virgin Mary’s daughters. As such, and having presented Mary as the most pristine and chaste of all women, young Catholic girls are therefore forced to follow her lead throughout their lives. Of course, sex is not prohibited once the woman has entered into the sacrament of marriage. However, while married women are viewed with respect and approval, women who remain virgins all their lives are considered as consecrated. Thus, the latter still achieves a higher status in the Catholic community. Aside from using the Virgin Mary, the Catholic Church has also employed countless symbolisms in order to justify the importance of virginity. Canonizing St. Maria Goretti, who died while trying to fight off a rapist, presents such a symbolism.

While the Catholic Church in ancient times did impose cruel punishments on women who become unchaste out of wedlock, modern ideologies have already diminished such harmful practices. However, while Catholic girls may have been spared such pain and humiliation, those from other cultures have to contend with much graver consequences. One such culture is present in Hindu countries. Chastity is a crucial virtue for all Hindu women, not only before they get married, but also after the latter’s termination, usually upon the husband’s death. Thus, if the husband dies, the widow, who is no longer a virgin, is not suited to wed someone else. Furthermore, her existence becomes not only superfluous, but abhorrent as well. Thus, the ancient practice called Sati was performed. This custom usually prescribes that during the husband’s cremation, the wife shall fling herself into the flames. In so doing, she cements her faith and honor as a wife. A modified version of such practice is called
the Jauhar or Jouhar. This custom is performed on a larger scale, likewise prescribing that the wives kill themselves, but this time, with their husband’s imminent death in mind.

These heinous practices are now outlawed in India, but some fundamentalists still press for a reversion to these traditions. Nevertheless, premarital chastity is still a highly treasured virtue in Hinduism today. The same statement holds true for Islamic cultures. Muslim brides must remain chaste until the night of their wedding. According to Islamic teachings, Allah created the hymen because it serves the function of determining the validity of intercourse, in which women may engage after marriage. The hymen is present in order to make it clear to women that sexual relations outside the marriage bond are perversions of a holy act and are considered unclean. Islam prizes the body’s cleanliness above most things, and should, thus, be protected and upheld.

Unlike the modern Western culture, those discussed above maintain the importance of virginity before marriage. However, the decision of whether or not virginity is important depends essentially on personal choice. After all, a woman must be free to choose, without fear or coercion, what she can or cannot do to her own body.

1- After an argument
The concept of “make-up sex” is not a myth. A heated argument with your woman tends to get your blood boiling, and your heart pumping. And once you’ve both gotten whatever’s been bothering you off your chests and told each other exactly how you feel, there’s nothing quite like turning the tables by taking her in your arms, kissing her passionately and letting your heightened emotions take over.

Even if you’ve upset her and she’s crying, that’s okay. Let her calm down, wipe her tears away and make love to her.

2- Happy occasion
Just like anger and sadness, extreme happiness can also get a woman in the mood. So, if she just got her degree, got a great new job, just found out she’s pregnant, or another similarly joyous event has just taken place, it’s time to channel all of that positive energy into some great sex.

3- Amid stress
Although I wouldn’t consider stress an extreme emotion, it can raise a woman’s libido. If your woman’s been likened to a chicken without a head lately, chances are that she’d be quite appreciative if you offered her a release for her tension. That goes for stress-induced headaches too, by the way. That’s right; a roll in the hay often gets rid of her headaches altogether. Be sure to tell her that the next time she gives you that tired line.

4- Jealousy
I’m not talking jealousy of the psychotic kind here; I’m referring to that little twinge of insecurity that comes over her when another woman is doing her competitive bitch thing and putting the moves on you, so to speak. After an evening of watching her man be hit on by other women, she may just want to remind you about one of the important reasons you’re with her and not them. But don’t go out of your way to make her jealous, that will just hurt and confuse her in the long run, diminishing the likelihood of your getting laid even further.

On to drinking games and using her celebrity crushes to your advantage.

5- Day 14… or so
Wow, this is a shocker: A woman gets horny when she’s ovulating. So, if it’s been about two weeks since her last period, now is probably a good time to initiate some action, if she hasn’t beaten you to it already.

6- Party on
I’m not advocating getting her drunk and taking advantage of her here. But, there’s nothing like a little dancing and drinking to get a woman in the mood. So, pour her her favorite kind of liquid courage, lead her in a slow dance on your living room floor, and watch as her inhibitions slowly melt away, allowing you to proceed with the matter at hand. Cheers!

7- Sexy movie
Most women aren’t that into porn, especially not the raunchy, hard-core stuff. But a steamy sex scene starring Brad Pitt or Antonio Banderas may just be enough to get her revved up and ready for you. So, turn your next humdrum night in watching movies, into a night you won’t soon forget.

8- Long-distance love
Long-distance relationships have the potential to be great for your sex life, as you will typically spend several days or weeks apart, pining for one another, with maybe just a couple of phone calls to keep you going, so that by the time you are reunited, all you want to do is devour each other.

9- Abstinence
The longer a woman goes without having sex, the hornier she’ll be. So, if the woman you’re after has been single for a while, and isn’t the one-night stand type, chances are that she’s looking for the right guy to break her dry spell. It just may be you.

10- Creative pitch
If your woman enjoys using her creativity, whether it be in the kitchen, with a paintbrush or musically, these occasions may be conducive to great sex. So, the next time she’s making you a gourmet meal, you may just want to slip into the kitchen for some pre-dinner sex.

let’s get it on

As you can see, women want it more often than you may think. You just have to know how to recognize the moment, and seize it. So the next time she comes home stressed out from her day at work, instead of sulking that you won’t be getting any that night, have a glass of wine while waiting for her, play some smooth jazzy tunes on the stereo, and offer to ease her mind. The ball’s in your court.

Impotence is a man’s inability or difficulty to have or maintain an erection. Although a lot of physical causes may be attributed to impotence, there are also psychological factors that lead to it. Some of these can be depression, stress and pressures about home or work, anxiety, relationship problems and arguments, insecurities and a low self-esteem, and even sexual boredom and the loss of intimacy. These problems can be addressed as psychosomatic problems since these situations are affected by psychological factors or the emotion.

When this is the case, then there are very high chances of curing the impotence. It may sound difficult at first, especially if you do not want to resolve the problem or you fear it, or worse is that you are unaware of the situation. However, when you have accepted that there is a problem and there is a need to work on it, then you can try different ways to treat psychosomatic impotence by using psychology as well. One does not need to turn to medications or surgery right away.

One treatment that you can undergo is Psychosexual Therapy. In psychosexual therapy or psychotherapy, the man and his partner are given techniques or exercises to help them renew their intimacy, sexual relation, sexual interests, and arousal. This can be done through talks, discussions, and activities that can lift the stress or anxiety that hasten impotence.

Another cure for impotence can be behavior modification. A new and positive outlook about one’s self, performance, and even his partner can bring about change and improvements. Behavior modification can really take time, but it is also cheaper and does not only help cure impotence, it also improves one’s personality.

To do this, here are a few suggested tips:

• Do a little reality check including a check on your personal situation and your present situation with your partner. What do you really feel about yourself, your member, and your partner?
• Talk with your partner to make things easier and lighter. It lifts up your burden and at the same time you are confident that there is someone who listens to you. If your partner is the one that’s putting the strain on you, all the more that you should talk. Ask what your partner wants, say what you want, and come into a solution. You have to speak up and work things out together without turning into an argument.
• Your lifestyle is very important and it affects your penile health a great deal, so do a check on your lifestyle. Just like taking care of the rest of your body, you should also take care of your penis. Trim down your fat, alcohol and nicotine or tobacco intake. Eat healthier and try to do some exercises. If possible, get into an exercise program or visit the gym regularly.
• If you still have more concerns, then it’s time that you should seek professional advice from a trained therapist or doctor. Remember that you should not be ashamed of your situation and that you are not the only one suffering from it.

Your health and a sound mind are much more important so you should do something about it.